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Managing healthy conflict
Conflict is a natural part of relationships and can occur in various settings, including:
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In-person interactions
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Online communications
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Group dynamics
To help couples manage conflicts effectively it helps to understand the five main styles of conflict resolution:
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Avoidance
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Accommodation
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Competition
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Compromise
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Collaboration
Among these, collaboration is the most constructive approach because it:
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Encourages open dialogue
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Fosters cooperation between parties
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Helps identify everyone's needs and interests
By engaging in collaboration, individuals can:
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Find mutually satisfying solutions
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Resolve conflicts effectively
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Strengthen relationships
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Build trust
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Enhance communication skills
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Promote deeper understanding
This leads to more harmonious interactions in both personal and community settings.
Couples and family communication
In my experience as a counsellor for couples and families, I've witnessed the powerful impact of effective communication.
Here are some key points to consider:
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Use "I feel, when..." Statements: Encourages expressing feelings without blame.
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Instead of: "You never listen to me."
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Try: "I feel frustrated, when you interrupt me."
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Reduce Defensiveness: Embrace vulnerability, and encourage each other to share true emotions without fear of judgment.
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Foster Empathy: Acknowledge each other's feelings and experiences to create a safer space to talk.
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Build Stronger Connections: Empathetic communication strengthens relationships and helps both partners feel valued and understood.
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Enhance Relationship Fulfillment: This practice leads to a more harmonious and fulfilling bond.
Anxious thoughts and changing perspectives
In counselling support, the main goal is to help clients manage their anxiety by:​
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Recognizing Anxious Thoughts: Distinguishing between facts and the stories we create in our minds.
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Examining Evidence: Clients are encouraged to engage a scientific mind to find evidence for the story.
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Challenging Beliefs: Helping clients identify and dispute irrational beliefs.
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Fostering Curiosity: Promoting open-minded exploration of thoughts without judgment.
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Considering Alternatives: Encouraging clients to look at different perspectives.​
Embracing this mindset is essential because it:
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Allows for a shift in viewpoint.
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Reduces anxiety.
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Promotes emotional resilience.
By being open to change, clients learn to approach their thoughts with curiosity instead of fear, leading to:
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Greater self-awareness.
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Empowerment in managing anxiety.